Life is full of opportunities. As a successful human being, you want to seize opportunities and achieve greatness. Even with the best of intentions, if you are like me (and the other 7 billion people on this planet), you can sometimes get lost or off course. While we live life like a road trip, packed and excited to reach a new destination, things come up and we can go down the wrong path or run out of gas all together.
Failing to consistently complete what you set out to do is like a dirty little secret. We don’t want people to know that we aren’t always reliable. The thing is, others do know even if they never say it. Check for yourself. Do you know when you can’t completely trust someone to complete a project because they didn’t complete something before? If you let people down, they remember. Worse yet, if you let yourselves down, you remember and you let self-doubt creep in and sabotage your future efforts to achieve your goals.
Well, the secret is out. If you are human, you know you can get stuck from time to time and not follow through. Good news, there is hope.
The Top 10 Big Ideas
1. Destination Success
Success can seem like a place to go. You work towards a goal and you “reach success”. Yet if you get stuck along the way to reaching your goal, you can feel like a failure and that you will never get there.
To shift from a failure feeling, think of yourself on a road of discovery that may have some bumps, but the adventure and value can be in getting there. Change your view from success as a destination and set your sights on continued success as an intention to find joy in the journey getting there
2. Road Map
One reason you can get lost on the way to achieve your goals is you don’t know where you are going and sometimes you don’t know where they are. A roadmap is great to navigate from point A to point B, but the map is useless if you don’t know what A and/or B is. Start with understanding where you are at and what is your goal you want to achieve. Then you will be able to use a map to set out on that road of discovery to continued success.
3. Traffic, Gas Prices, Bad Drivers, etc.
Along the journey to your goal, you can find stressful situations, costly hurdles you can’t avoid, and frustrations from people you encounter. These complaints can take you off course fast. Some complaints are bigger detours than others. The detour complaints are the ones that seem to always happen and won’t go away. These are the persistent, consistent complaints that the moment they show up you have an automatic negative response that stops you from focusing on the goals. Instead you focus on the complaint that always stops you, such as the never-ending traffic (i.e. not enough time), soaring gas prices (i.e. not enough money), or that there are more and more bad drivers on the road (i.e. other people suck).
Look in your life, what are the persistent, consistent complaints that stop you?
4. So What?
If we all have these complaints and get stopped at times, then so what, does it really matter? This is a great question to ask yourself. Why does it matter? What is the impact on your life? What is it costing you anyway?
Before you are willing to make a change you need to know if it is worth it; otherwise, it is easier to just keep doing what you have been doing. Ask yourself what is the impact of getting stopped on things that matter to your most such as your loved ones, your time and freedom, your financial security, and your reputation.
If the cost is too high to bear, then it is time for a change and to stop getting stuck by complaints.
5. Response Ability
Do you find yourself playing the blame game with your complaints? It is an easy trap to fall into seeing the situation or other people as the cause of why we can’t accomplish what we set out to do. Once you identify your complaint and that is it worth changing, go a bit deeper to listen to your response to the complaint. If your response sounds anything like “it is not my fault” then you have lost the blame game and really lost the game of life.
As humans we are able to pause, think, and respond, also known as responsibility (response + ability). If a response to a complaint doesn’t give you 100% control of the actions you can take to solve it, then you are missing out on the power to take life into your own hands. Instead of thinking you are not responsible and a victim of your circumstances, I invite you to ask where can I respond and be 100% able to take action to solve this complaint.
What in your life isn’t working where you can create your own solution and then respond by taking action to the best of your ability?
6. Ya But
Even if we are inspired to achieve our goal and motivated to act, we can still be stuck if we just don’t know what to change or how to change it. Seek to find out what information you are missing to know what needs to be changed and the structure you need to put in place to support you in success.
Share with an expert or a trusted friend who will be straight with you where you are stuck and what is the cause behind the complaint to see what those people would advise.
7. Ask for Directions
Do you find it hard to stop and ask for directions? It is exciting to get moving when you are inspired and yet if you don’t know how to get there then you are destined to get lost and arrive late. Having a structure and system to take each step to achieve your goal may feel a bit slow at first to learn how to take the steps, but in the long run you will get where you are going faster and consistently stay on track. If you don’t know how, ask an expert for directions and find a system to follow.
Maps and GPS devices are great systems for navigating to unknown places; what systems do you need to take the steps to your goal?
8. Do, There is No Try
Once you are inspired to change and know the steps to take along with the system to follow, it is up to you to act. Being aware of the impact and what information and structure you need to stop a complaint are the foundation for change, but nothing happens unless you choose to act. No more, “I will try and see”. Trying isn’t doing. Take the first step. Then the second and the third step will become easier. Starting sometimes is the hardest part but stopping and starting is even harder. Just keep taking steps consistently and eventually you will go the distance.
9. Accountability Without Punishment
Life happens. Even with our best foot forward, we can get off course. Before you beat yourself up for not completing what you promised, pause to ask yourself what had me stop. Ask yourself as in number 3 above, what is my complaint that’s stopping me and take action to solve the cause of the complaint. Reflecting on what is not working and creating a new plan of action to address the cause will not only hold yourself accountable to your promises, but also have you learn where you can grow. As a result, instead of feeling like a failure, you will see your experiences as temporary defeats and not permanent flaws.
10. Success Momentum
Celebrate big and small results and more importantly, that you took action. The process of continual action is a bigger win than the goal being achieved and it will serve you throughout your life as a success habit. Achieved goals are the results that help you to see that your continual action is in fact working. Accomplishments are measurements of success. Keep measuring your success and you will build momentum, find you aren’t getting stuck as often and you will start the path of your next goal with greater ease.
Interested in finding out more? Check out CEO, Jen Hamilton, at en*theos Academy teaching this course live! Follow the link below: https://www.entheos.com/
by Jen Hamilton, CEO & Co-founder for Institute for Mastering Success
(c) 2014, Institute for Mastering Success